Training in assertiveness, or confidence boosting, helps us to communicate
our needs more openly and honestly. It should also help us towards
being able to negotiate, or reach a compromise. Furthermore, it aims
to teach us to behave in such a way, so that we do not continually leave
situations feeling bad about ourselves.
SAMPLE PAGE
SECTION 1: WAYS OF BEHAVING
Assertive, Aggressive and Passive Behaviour
Below are 3 lists explaining how an assertive person behaves, how an
aggressive person behaves and how a passive person behaves.
Assertion
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Recognising our own needs, opinions and wishes.
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Letting people know what these are.
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Not seeing situations in terms of win or lose, but being prepared to compromise.
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Relating to people in an open and honest way.
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Recognising and respecting the rights and needs of other people.
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Feeling responsible for ourselves and in control of our own actions.
Aggression
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Imposing what we believe or want.
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Expressing feelings and opinions in a way that punishes, threatens or puts
the other person down.
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Disregarding and devaluing the rights and needs of others.
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Aiming to get our own way no matter what.
Passivity
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Being inhibited, feeling we shouldn't express our needs, opinions or wishes.
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Not standing up for our rights, allowing others to take advantage of us.
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Avoiding responsibility for making choices - leaving others to make decisions
for us.
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Not being in control of our lives, seeing ourselves as helpless victims
of unfairness and injustice.
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Apologising and blaming ourselves inappropriately.
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